Do you ever feel so exhausted that you cannot think of another word to say that would be meaningful?
That the only thing you crave is quiet, alone time? And find yourself crying out silently “Please will the world stop and let me get off”!!
We recognize this in our children, when they have a meltdown at a seemingly simple task of “please take the salt and pepper to the table” or “ it’s time to tidy up your toys” or while at a birthday party (even their own) will suddenly become overwhelmed and become aggressive or use language associated with rage.
We call this sensory overload – we have had too many people in our immediate sphere of influence; lots of new people to get to know; new places to navigate our way around and it all blurs into brain exhaustion.
We can experience this even if we are extroverts and largely energized from being with people. This is not about being with friends whom we know and trust; this is about being “out there” under the spotlight of engaging, selling, marketing networking and building new relationships.
Have you ever noticed at a particular point in the day when it is as if somebody unplugged the power cable and we just cannot do another conversation?
This is the moment of becoming
So how can we pace ourselves to not land in such an exhausted state?
1. Know yourself
Reflect over the last year or so and consider what you like to do to relax?
- What rejuvenates your mind?
- What re-energized your body?
- What feeds your soul?
Do one activity for mind, body and soul each day. It does not need to take a long time.
- Meditation for even 10 minutes or reading a book or joining a webinar which expands your knowledge.
- Whether a walk around the block, as a session at the gym, dancing or sitting on a gym ball to activate the core muscles – moving allows our body to re-align and release muscle tension.
- Finding what feeds our soul, is a key component to calming ourselves. It could be a spiritual practice such as prayer, or meditation. It could be a creative outlet such as painting, pottery, woodwork or gardening.
3. Surround yourself with people whom you know, love and trust.
- The people we spend time with impact us for good or not.
- Choose the people you hang out with in your “down-time” carefully.
- Children, particularly in the teen phase rotate through many friendship groups to work out whom they want to be and what kind of friendships help them to be the best version of themselves.
Once we are adults, it’s valuable to have a few good friends whom you know you can go to anytime and trust they will have your best interest at heart.
In a family, LOVE is spelled T-i-m-e
4. Plan your week and pace your day
- Schedule some self-care time; social time; spiritual and exercise time daily that will bring and enable you to calmly go about the busy hours of the day with family responsibilities, work commitments and deadlines.
- Be clear with yourself how much socializing works for you – we all have unique needs. There is no one-size-fits-all approach here.
- Ensure that any family commitments such as an elderly parent/grandparent or checking in with a friend who has a chronic illness are not the only items in your diary – rather that they form one item of a balanced day or week.
- Reflect carefully into your daily routines and see if there are tasks that can be shared or delegated which will lighten your load.